Finding poems and peace can be a very emotional experience. It’s quite traditional for us to associate certain poems or songs with those we love. Previously, we looked at using a loved one’s favourite flower as a tribute, and this is a similar topic.
Song lyrics or poems can make very touching tributes when read out, or printed into an order of service, or a card. We are sharing just two, but your options really are endless. One place to start can be talking to family and friends to find out if there are any specific poets or words they associate with your loved one. Then you can consider looking for songs released in the year they were born, or another significant life event.
Funerals of celebrities or the Royal family can also highlight contemporary poetry. Did you know that ‘She is Gone’ by David Harkins, read at the Queen Mothers’ Funeral, was originally written for a card? It is now an extremely popular choice.
Locations can also be special, and you may find a poem about that particular place. Consider other elements of their life that were meaningful to them or that people would easily associate with them, favourite foods, animals, plants or seasons. Each might lend itself to finding the right words to help express how you feel.
Taking some time to research online will allow you to find famous poems and poets. You can also find specific funeral poems online. There are also many beautiful words for which we don’t know the author. A lovely example is here:
To the living, I am gone.
For the sorrowful, I will never return.
To the angry, I was cheated,
But to the happy, I am at peace,
And to the faithful, I have never left.
I cannot be seen, but I can be heard.
So as you stand upon a shore, gazing at a beautiful sea – remember me.
As you look in awe at a mighty forest and its grand majesty – remember me.
As you look upon a flower and admire its simplicity – remember me.
Remember me in your heart, your thoughts, and your memories of the times we
loved, the times we cried, the times we fought, the times we laughed.
For if you always think of me, I will have never gone.
Our sister company Woodland Burial Company uses a poem by Pam Ayers in their brochure, with her kind permission. It’s very evocative of their site but could be useful to anyone that loves nature and the environment.
Don’t lay me in some gloomy churchyard shaded by a wall,
Where the dust of ancient bones has spread a dryness over all,
Lay me in some leafy loam where, sheltered from the cold,
Little seeds investigate and tender leaves unfold.
There kindly and affectionately, plant a native tree,
To grow resplendent before God and hold some part of me.
The roots will not disturb me as they wend their peaceful way,
To build the fine and bountiful, from closure and decay.
To seek their small requirements so that when their work is done,
I’ll be tall and standing strongly in the beauty of the sun.
More of Pam’s work can be found on her website.